I was so scared when I went to EAP. That was 3years ago. But I was in so much pain, I didn't even have the ability to question who would be right for me, I didn't know what it was all about or what I wanted - I'd never been before. I just desparately grabbed what was offered. EAP should listen to you and give you a chance to tell them what you need in a therapist and then give you a recomendation within your healthcare plan. Sounds like you've got a clear idea about what you need. Try and be brave enough to go and speak up about it. *hugs*