Thank you for your reply, especially since you are a survivor yourself. Since I am the only one that knows anything about this, I feel so alone in being able to help him. When really all I can do is pray for a miracle that he will get help. He has totally shut me out of his life now. He will not answer calls and has told me he should of never started seeing me again. He is so confused, he is so hurt by this, he thinks it is what I did, he has no idea the past is doing this to him. I feel helpless. The hardest thing is he is a great man. It isn't his fault that this happened to him. It was a family member that did this to him, a brother that he had so sleep with every night. He told me that he is over it and that no one will find out, I am to tell no one.That he loves hi brother and the past is over. Yet, I have hell to pay over saying no. I love him and want to help him, but I'm shut out. All I can do at this point is send him a message saying I'm sorry I upset him, that I will always love him, I miss him and ask God for a miracle. I'm not afraid of him. He won't hurt me physically. He never has even come close. When we are close we are very close. When things are good, the intimacy seems so right, unbelievable. I believe he loves me, but if we have an upset of any kind no matter how small on anything he runs. Then later he usually comes back. Sometimes it takes awhile. But this time he is really upset. Last time it was six months. And then he tried dating someone else, first. How did you finally decide to seek help?