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He tells me, "Ok. The whole time before you got angry, I think there was a really strong connection. Then when you got mad at me, I felt hurt because we lost that."

What?

So I'm sitting there with this %#@&#! look on my face. I don't even know what to say. So I go, "Um. You just disclosed an emotion."

And he says, "I know... I took a chance."

So at this point, I'm basically dying. Completely overwhelmed. I'm sitting there analyzing the situation to pieces. Connection? Was he inferring that he, too, felt connected? Or did he just mean that I was connected and then I %#@&#! it up? Part of me was absolutely melting that we reached the point in therapy in which he finally felt that he could disclose such a thing. Then there was the all-or-nothing part of me that was thinking, "Great. I hurt him. Now we'll never have a connection again. I just ruined the entire relationship" So this was the part I chose to share. I told him, "See? I hurt everyone that I form a connection with." So we talked about that for a bit.

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Or could he have been encouraging you to take a chance and go deeper than your anger? To touch the vulnerability and emotions anger sometimes protects (love, maybe)? Maybe not, but that's what occurred to me when I read your excellent post. Please disregard if it doesn't seem to fit.