Actually, as a femme lesbian who is attracted to other femme lesbians, I absolutely DO understand. I have a very difficult time finding desirable partners to date. I am never approached out and about by anyone I am actually interested in. I have to put up with being hit on constantly by men (and a few butch women) while I also struggle to find a woman I AM interested in. Imagine how many times in my life I've had to watch an attractive woman get scooped up by a man, knowing I can't approach her because she isn't gay. Yeah.

As a straight man, you have all of the advantages that I dont. You can walk into a bar, join a matchmaking service, go to a meetup.com for singles, and have available straight women who WANT to be approached at your disposal. If you are choosing not to avail yourself of those options, that is your own fault. I wish I were lucky enough to have the same resources to meet femme lesbians but, where I live, those options are not available for the lesbian community. If they were, I would not hesitate!