"What also irritates me is that it takes him 1000 times longer to do ANYTHING than needed"

Based on what you have posted...it would seem the least of your concerns...don't you think?

Compare the length of time with pretty much the rest of your post...I guess my only suggestion in dealing with this is to move back out...let things cool off a little bit and take a really good look at your relationship...

What is critical in any relationship is good candid assertive communication...Sounds like he is aggessive and your passive...that really doesn't set things up for success...spend a year or two separte each working on your own on being assertive...If he is not interested in this...I think you have a really important piece of information about how the relationship is viewed from his prespective...all other issues aside.