Mrs.Solidsex I can understand how you feel. I am very much the same way. The only difference is I am 40 years old. I think some people just do not like lots of touching. My Husband does and I do not.

I disagree with your therapist saying this is a time to experiment and what ever goes. That in my opinion can be very damaging. This is a time to set boundaries and learn about yourself and what you do and do not like.

I have been threw some difficult things in my life. Child sexual abuse being one of them. It may just be me, but it sounds like having an aggressive dad is not the only thing you may have experienced that leads to these feeling that you have towards men/boys. But again that may be just me projecting what happened to me onto others.

I do know that I can handle limited amount of touching but I cannot handle sexual touching very well. I let my Husband touch me in those ways but it is very difficult for me to tolerate it. If he touches my breasts I totally freeze. It just sends my my mind to a very bad place. And my private parts, well lets just not even go there. In the 20 years we have been married I have given him oral sex maybe 5 times. It is just something I don't like due to the abuse. I have been married to my husband for 20 years. Just because there are things you do not like doesn't mean that this relationship will come to an end.

In my opinion you just need to talk to him and tell him that these things are your preference. Just like a food he may like and you do not. It has nothing to do with him and it is not caused by something he said or did. You are very young, and often times things that are not so wanted will be wanted at another time. As you spend time, lots of time, together. Maybe after a few years or after marriage your opinion and your level of trust will have changed. Or you may be like me and oral sex is never something you will want to participate in. Along with having your breasts touched or anything else you may not like.

You need to learn to enjoy the things you can enjoy. Embrace that and take things one small step at a time when going out of your comfort zone.