hey. yeah, i use projective identification. only... that isn't quite right. i project. the identification part of that is what the OTHER person does with what it is that i have projected. just like how i find myself projecting... they find themself identifying... projecting is a way of communicating. people feel understood when their is syncronisation of emotion. if i'm feeling pain... and another person 'catches' some of my pain... then i feel less alone with my pain. projecting is a way of communicating.

sounds like your p-doc has trouble coping with your projections. that doesn't give you much confidence in your ability to handle what is being projected. i mean, if he is having trouble dealing with his identification then what hope is there for you being able to deal with it. sigh.

acting out... could be viewed as a communication strategy also. if he was a little better at conveying empathetic understanding for your emotional state... then he might find that you didn't need to project and / or act out quite so much... interesting...