He booked a ticket to a city which is about 3 hours away from me. A few days after the break up when we were still in touch, he announced to me that his mother was coming with him on that trip instead. She has always been pushing him to take her along on his trips to see me. I was never a fan of that, because she is so intense. He wasn't either, and somehow always talked it out of her head.

My intention was never to diagnose him but given the ADHD and OCD that seemingly run in the family in addition to his ADD diagnosis, it was something that made me feel better about the breakup - that it wasn't my fault. My impression was that he wanted to get rid of an extra stress factor in his life, and since finding a new house to live and working a new job aren't particularly easy to replace, he probably felt the relationship had to end. I'm only guessing.

I agree that he might fear confrontation, although I have seen him getting upset about the actions of others many times before. I would always calm him down. At work, he never seemed to have a problem with addressing the issues. He also subtly let me know his preferences in certain situations.

We haven't been in touch for a month now.