No, I certainly don't discriminate based on any physical attributes of a person. As a girl that used to be thin and trim, I can commiserate with falling in to a category of what others now consider 'overweight'. I gained weight due to a medication I was on and that, mixed with some serious depression for awhile, just packed the pounds on! However, while my doctors admit I need to lose weight, my blood pressure, heart, lungs, bloodwork, etc. are all well within where they should be. In fact, many a doctor has commented on how good my vitals look compared to my body appearance (thanks, I guess?)

At any rate, I too have had people point my weight out. I am an avid horse woman too, and sometimes I have other riders point out how I am selfish and hurting my animals. I've had people call me a "land whale" and all sorts of names. In all honesty, even when I was 'fit' I always had the hips and chest of a woman and despite having a 6 pack and being toned, I wore a size 8-10 in my thinner days. Now I am hovering in a 16-18 pant size (waist 36/38) range at 5'8" and while I know that I have weight to lose, I am actively working out every day, riding my horses, weight training, and eating a healthy diet (counting calories, sugar, carbs, etc).

I don't think its appropriate to tell anyone about their weight unless it is solicited. For example, my best friend was in the same boat as me and literally starved herself for about 6 months and lost a SUBSTANTIAL amount of weight and has kept it off for 3 years now. While I give her kudos, I just can't do the starvation thing myself. We're all different.

Honestly, if you're happy and healthy, then who cares? If its unsolicited, you might want to touch base with your friend and say it hurt your feelings what she said. If you have the relationship where you can share like that and have a good dialogue.

Some people are just prejudiced. For whatever reason. I can't explain it or rationalize it. I just avoid those people. I love everyone for who they ARE, not what they look like. Surround yourself with those people. Do what makes YOU happy.

For reference, my fiance was overweight. He went so far as to get the lapband. This was all before I met him. He lost a LOT of weight and LOOKS great. But, he feels awful. He was SO concerned with what everyone else thinks and I watch him get sick regularly. It upsets me so much that he is willing to be physically ill and sick all the time because what others think and have told him. I've tried to convince him to take the lapband out and he tells me no, he might gain the weight back. I say, "SO? Even if you do, I'll still be here and we will be healthy!"

Don't let it get to you! You seem to be in the right place here. I too would be off put by what your friend said.