Yes, to a degree I allow them to make those comments, but I am fully capable of thinking for myself. The problem is that they are known for being an asshole to me as far as my friends and family have heard and that will be a very hard wrap to change. I was more than willing to disregard what they have to say, based on the way that I feel for them. Yet, when one person is seen as perfect for me, treats me well and wants a future and the other one cannot make up their mind - or even appear capable of seeing what a long term relationship would be like with me, then how can they think or see things differently. I am the first person to defend anyone, esp someone I love. Yet, they are looking out for me and the said person has to be deserving of my loyalty. I wish they would just prove to me that we could have security, I don't need the title - I just need to feel secure with them and that would change everything. They have really tried of recent, but I am unsure how long until the wind changes again.