Thank you everyone for your responses, it means a lot to me.

It was a really hard few years and I guess I had been blaming myself for so long. Its only now that I'm not in the relationship that I've had a chance to reflect on everything and realise how unhealthy our relationship actually was.

I stayed because I wasn't strong enough to walk away, I had him on a pedestal and I thought I could never do any better. When I say I tried to work on myself, I would get myself very worked up, angry and upset in these situations whilst he was very calm. Looking back I was only like this in reaction to him...

In June we moved to a new city for his job, I left my job for him. I know this was a totally ridiculous thing to do but at the time I thought it was right. I was in the new city for a month before he ended things with me. I just don't understand how a person can let someone leave a job, spend their own money on the move and then dump them 4 weeks later.

I'm taking some time out for myself now! My confidence has taken a beating and I need to build it back up and give myself a bit of love!
For some reason I feel this huge weight off my shoulders!