when you follow the directions in my post above it will bring you to the friend feature (aka a link that says "others like you") this is what I call the friend feature because it shows all that are registered that have similar things marked in their profiles. you can click on their name and it will bring you to their profile where you can click befriend this member. in other words send a friend request. kind of like facebook has a friend request psych central has the others like you then befriend this member.

my understanding is you can write on anyones "visitor message" that is on their profile ....if....they do not have that turned off. sometimes members turn off their visitor messages. so the other options for contacting someone is by replying to a post on the boards or by sending them a private message.

those that dont post or are not members can see what you post on the boards.

those that are not members or members that are not logged in, are not able to see your profile therefore not able to post on your visitor message profile.