I was seeing a therapist from January until May at which time he ended the sessions. He was working with one organization which offered 12 sessions and I was going once a week for an hour. He had received an extension for me so I did have some more sessions. However, he switched to private practice. He said that I no longer needed counselling because of all the progress I had made and that he felt confident that I was equipped with the strategies that I needed to be successful. So then why do I still feel messed up??? I do agree that I have made great progress! I have been able to deal with some of the issues from my past, grown my self esteem and I am a fairly confident person for the most part, my anxiety has alleviated quite a bit, and I'm no longer suicidal and I'm better able to cope with situations. But I still feel like I keep making the same mistakes over and over and over! Primarily in my love relationships, but also with friendships. I find myself becoming desperate and clingy, wanting to spend all my free time when I'm not working or with my kids (single mom) with someone that I'm dating and it becomes an issue. I expect the man I'm exclusively dating to want to spend as much time with me as I do with him. Even though he still has two thirds of his time to himself since my kids are only with their dad every second or third day, it continues to be an issue. I rush relationships. I attract Future Fakers and unhealthy relationships. So if I know all the strategies and if I've progressed as a person than why do I keep making the same mistakes and look to the person in dating for validation? At the same time, I self sabotage and ruin good relationships when they come subcontiously. I don't even realize what I'm doing until it's too late. So how can I use the strategies when I don't even realize what I'm doing? It's one thing to know the strategies. It's another to be able to identify the issue and apply it