I didn't say I was poor - in fact I'm fairly affluent. I have a fat pension and a substantial investment portfolio so I'm not irresponsible. And I did talk about going out with her - that's when I found out she had a boyfriend. And this was not a spur of the moment thing - we've been exchanging life experiences for months. The boyfreind thing was a surprise because she has shared a lot of personal information with me - that's why I thought it would be okay even though it's her workplace.