I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I remember all the stuff that happened over the years, but I don't know what to make of it. My parents were extremely loving and supportive at times, but I've had a very hard time really trusting them. Although my parents never yelled at me to make me cry, there were some events over the years that were extremely over the top and disturbing to me. When I brought them up, their reaction did really infuriate me at times. They would often try to minimize and avoid admitting to the things they did. As time has gone on, they did accept it and have even agreed to go to counseling with me to talk about it. I really would not consider my family to have been abusive as a whole, but there were some very disturbing incidents.