I am in a new relationship and we are pretty close emotionally. We have been sharing much personal info that makes us very vulnerable but we both handling it well. We are very similar in emotional sense.

On few occasions we made an attempt to share about childhood and upbringing. It's very important for us to understand each other upbringing as it effected our past relationships tremendously and we don't want it to negatively effect our relationship

The situation is that his parents both passed away so whatever he shares isn't going to effect much beyond me understanding him better.

Mine on the other hand are alive and well. My parents are decent people on the surface but are the source of much of my life long bad choices with men. Some emotional abuse and some bad relationship model (they don't have s good marriage) and lack of emotional closeness etc plus my dad is very difficult etc I don't hold grudges and am ok with my parents but it is undeniable truth how much I am negatively effected by my childhood

The thing is if we stay together I don't want him to have bad thoughts of my parents if I share. One day he'll meet them and wears he high to think? Yet if I don't, then he won't understand much of my life. Also if we hide the truth we won't be ourselves with each other and won't be truly vulnerable.

Hiding my deep fears and my pain is a very common thing for me and I don't want to be emotionally unavailable with my new bf

So I have this dilemma. Any advice or any suggestions? I am also going to ask my t

Btw my ex of many years refused to believe anything I shared of my parents and claimed that my dad is the best and I am being unfair ( my parents are awesome on public not in private) . I don't want to repeat same experiences

Thank you all in advance

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