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Originally Posted by Claire2015
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and reply  she definately does have issues but she's in denial it is almost as if she's accepting them rather than questioning why she has so many? Exactly and i think it could be because she believes she's out grown ADHD which is impossible it's not curable all you can do is improve it . Is personality disorder a comorbid of ADHD because you have literally summed her up in a nut shell. Ill look into personality disorder and see if that could be a possibilty. She is convinced her ADD has worn off and she no longer has it which is obviously not the case, her life contradicts it with all the struggles and issues.
Honestly i don't think she would she doesn't like being told things straight you know the truth hurts and i'm trying to determine if this is ADHD, low self esteem or something else entirely. I think you could be right about personality disorder.
Thank you again
Claire |
It is possible to outgrow mild forms of ADHD, in fact that was the assumption until only the last 20 years or so, that kids outgrew ADHD in early adulthood. Researchers realized that it was not the case, many adults were able to compensate their symptoms which gave the indication that ADHD was gone as an adult. In my case I put all the hyperactivity and energy I had into athletics. I became a competitive long distance runner & cyclist along with other physical activities but I still had other issues that didn't change. I still couldn't focus, my mind was still running a million miles a minute. I actually got involved in a medical research study for the effects of Ritalin on adults. Ritalin was never originally tested for adults only children because at the time ADHD was a kid thing. After realizing that wasn't the case ADD med's were being approved for use in adults. From what you are writing your friend has not outgrown ADHD, in fact her ADD is causing issues that may in the long run put her in rock bottom.
Buy you can't fix her problems, you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped. As I mentioned in another post of yours, maybe it's time to step back as you can only do so much. She's 18, and no offense but 18 year old's really don't make good choices, I know I work at a college. They think they know everything. You seem more mature and have your head screwed on right but your friend is a different story. But I think you need to back off for a while and let her do her own thing and let her make the choice on what to do. You can only do so much before you end up in trouble. Walk away, but leave the door open, let her come to you. If you continue to force this issue down her throat it will not end the way you hope. It's time that her family takes control of the situation.