Hi Canders,
I think you a caring wonderful person
I think although you may feel you arent helping friends enough.....you truly are helping.
Sometimes we just want to vent,someone to listen without being judged.I think youve done that.You cant solve others problems you can only offer advise.
I think sometimes our friends trigger us without knowing.....we need to seperate a bit, then otherwise you will get caught up,and get "sick"yourself.
Your being a true friend by being there....now be there for YOURSELF too.
All the best