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Originally Posted by Claire2015
Best things to do:
- always be kind
- encourage them to make notes/lists to follow throughout the day
- timers are suppose to be very useful as ADHD'ers don't do things based on a timed structure so having a stopwatch or clock to keep them on track will be useful
- my friend doesn't like being helped as she wants to do things herself however struggles to do so, in which i will then step in and say how is it going, where are you up to, are you on track and if she is so far behind that she will get in trouble for it then i step in and help so checking up on them is very useful as you're helping by not helping them or taking over if you get me
- be positive
- maybe subtly mention ADHD and see how he/she responds but don't be direct talk from a third person point of view
- be encouraging cause ADHD seems incredibly tough to deal with when you're not medicated
- depending on how close you are maybe hang out with them after work and get to know them better (giving you an opportunity to mention ADHD)
- don't come across threatening, condescending
- don't jump to conclusions quickly otherwise he/she may get defensive
- if you see them making a mistake or error gently tell them something like "maybe instead of doing it that way it might be better this way" so it doesn't come across negative or like he/she is 'wrong again' or 'inadequate'
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Claire,
Thank you for the wonderful advice!
I have ADHD. I've been on and off my meds. Right now I'm off meds because I had developed the coping skills to manage it.
I would absolutely never confront my boss because you are 100% correct, that would be firestorm!
I brought this up to see how other cope with something like this. Like you've stated, my boss has lowered my self esteem (which is already bad any way), I jump to conclusions frequently, because of my impulsivity, I want to lash out, or run screaming but thank goodness I don't do that. I take frequent breaks to just walk it off.
I was cruising along just fine without my meds. I truly was. But over the course of the last 6-8 months, I've felt myself slowly disintegrate and I feel my job performance is suffering and I feel it trickling into my personal life.
My goal was to always get to a point to manage the ADHD without meds. But I think I'm realizing, that I can't do that.
I was diagnosed 10 years ago in my early 30s. I have 3 daughters and 2 of them have it as well. The youngest one HAS to take her meds everyday or it's a bad day for her and everyone around her. The middle daughter needs her meds for school only. My oldest daughter seems unaffected.
Claire, I thanks for the post. It really helped.