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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
An older female, let's say a teacher, begins dating a man of age 19/20 - just out of high school. Guess what everyone is going to think? That she's been inappropriate with students - even if the guy had never ever been a student at any school she worked at and she hadn't met him until he was 19/20. Stuff like that happens frequently - when older people approach people significantly younger it does often bring up negative reactions because it's too close to being pedophilia - because if you were to subtract say 20 years, you might go from a 50+ adult and a 20 YO, to a 30+ adult and a newborn infant. People just automatically do that math.
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But the girl in this scenario is not 19-20, she is 25. I usually see people saying there is a big difference between these two.
I think that if a 60 year old woman posted saying she was interested in a 25 year old male barista and that he was being extra nice to her, people would not be so quick to assume he is just doing his job and had no interest in her.if the woman was in her 40s, it would pretty much be unanimously agreed upon that the barista is interested and wants some "cougar action". However, when it's an older man and a younger female barista, everyone is insists that there can't possibly be any interest on her part and she is just doing her part. And thus wpuld even be the case if the age gap was smaller, like 35 and 25, or
27 and 19.
So I am wondering, why do people find much much harder to believe a younger woman would be into an older man than that a younger man would be into an older woman? If you look at the statistics, young women date older men way more often than young men date older women.