I did catch myself apologizing compulsively a few times. Hopefully, no one else noticed, lol.

I feel a little guilty about being judgmental of S? He deserves to be treated with respect. I can't imagine what it would be like to be in his shoes, but I can't imagine it would be much fun to be worried about your wife, and not feel like you have much support from family for friends, and also have your mortgage and house to worry about.