I thank everyone who has responded so far. I'm NOT moving out away from my guy, unless he physically abuses me or something drastic. I do love him, and really just want to help him with this OCPD problem. Perhaps I just have to tolerate it. By nature I'm not passive at all. I just find that confronting him over every silly thing he obsesses over is not worth it. I'm pretty used to getting my way in a relationship (was in a 30 year marriage that ended a little over a year ago), but realize that I need to change and give in more to a partner's wishes to have a relationship work. I just wondered about OCPD and if folks who have it ever improve and become less compulsive about everything.