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Originally Posted by Scatterbrained_x_3
Claire,
Thank you for the wonderful advice!
I have ADHD. I've been on and off my meds. Right now I'm off meds because I had developed the coping skills to manage it.
I would absolutely never confront my boss because you are 100% correct, that would be firestorm!
I brought this up to see how other cope with something like this. Like you've stated, my boss has lowered my self esteem (which is already bad any way), I jump to conclusions frequently, because of my impulsivity, I want to lash out, or run screaming but thank goodness I don't do that. I take frequent breaks to just walk it off.
I was cruising along just fine without my meds. I truly was. But over the course of the last 6-8 months, I've felt myself slowly disintegrate and I feel my job performance is suffering and I feel it trickling into my personal life.
My goal was to always get to a point to manage the ADHD without meds. But I think I'm realizing, that I can't do that.
I was diagnosed 10 years ago in my early 30s. I have 3 daughters and 2 of them have it as well. The youngest one HAS to take her meds everyday or it's a bad day for her and everyone around her. The middle daughter needs her meds for school only. My oldest daughter seems unaffected.
Claire, I thanks for the post. It really helped.
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No problem at all it must all sound familiar to you then as you have experience unlike myself. That is brilliant have you tried supplements and food regimes that will lower the intensity of the symptoms. Maybe you just need to keep working till you find a way of controlling it how you wish to.
Ahh i am really sorry to hear that it must be so tough having your boss knocking your self-esteem lower and lower. Especially cause you can't retaliate or your job could be on the line, however i think you should mention it subtly maybe chat randomly about ADHD or if you have time educate him and co workers of the condition and say how your children have it and you'd like to raise awareness.
Hopefully if this happens your boss will be able to tick the boxes of criteria to be diagnosed and you can have a happier working environment. As for yourself though it sounds pretty rough so you must take care of yourself even if it means leaving your job for another to save your self esteem do it.
I suppose ADHD affects people differently just be careful with high school etc as that is where the pressure will increase and become intense. My friend has ADD, she has always suffered from it and got a diagnosis last year aged 17. She went into depression back in 2010 where she felt she had no friends, couldn't do anything right and was worthless. She had suicidal thoughts but i NEVER let her act on it, you have to be cruel to be kind but i made sure she got through the hard times and her life improved MASSIVELY.
However the curse of ADHD like you are experiencing yourself will always be turbulant by the sounds of it. My friend's life is going downhill rapidly so being medicated is a must unless you are able to regain control manually so to speak but good luck you must take care of yourself and don't be a scape goat for your boss to dump their troubles on you when you have enough to deal with
You're welcome i am glad i helped even if it's just a little bit
Claire