Every time you let someone bend your ear for a lot longer than you have any interest in listening to, you are letting them think that you are okay with what they are doing. So they just persist more. Then you just build up more resentment toward them. It becomes a bad cycle.

Yes! Yes! I do see this about myself, it is very scary for me to confront anyone. Esp. someone like her, who uses a whole lot of shaming and guilt to manipulate me into staying with her. I am happy that we are 400 hundred miles apart!

Another, thing that she does that blokes me from speaking, is she goes on these loooooong drawn out crying jags! How in the world do you cut them off when they are doing that!?!?!?!?!?!? Major crazy maker!!!!!!! This is what she did yesterday, it really is sickening to say the least.

Well thank you ALL I am listening to everything that you have said, and I can and do agree with what you have said. I see the truth in your words and will take it seriously.