Thank you all for the input. Seems to be the general consensus that I am looking for something that simply isn't out there in a nice, neat package. So perhaps I have to make that happen myself. There are several "parts" of what I want.

I did not specifically post it in the transgender forum here (but I did in another trans-only forum off-site). I see this less as a trans issue and more of a general human being issue. But maybe I'm being to broad in my scope. We shall see and if there is interest I may report back on my findings!

To Joandemi, I have had no surgical work done. I would like to some day but for now I am enjoying living nearly freely as myself. I've recently come out in all facets of my life and now only really need to pull together a professional wardrobe for my work, and take care of legal papers. This last part is frustrating because I am essentially out to my employer, but need to appear polished, meaning I need to spend a pretty penny on clothes. So close!

Incidentally, I picked up a great book called Tipping the Velvet that I cannot put down. On topic, tastefully erotic, and quite delicious to read, and so far not terribly explicit.