Genesis,

Welcome to the forums, btw. I also have a h that blames me for absolutely everything. He is bipolar as well (like myself) and thinks that I can live without the meds......since I can't, then everything is my fault. His thinking is way off the wall, but it is hard to simply put what he says aside.

Don't waste your time thinking it's all your fault - I don't believe that. If your h can't or won't change, look at your situation and check to see if you can live/manage on your own. If it is better for you, then do it. You don't need extra stress.