I found out when my daughter was about 3 months old that while i was pregnant my husband parents called my Mom and Dad offering to pay for half or an abortion ! Mind you my husband and I were married and this was a planned pregnancy.

( my Father had 3rd degree burns on his leg and was loaded to the gills on Morphine only reason it came out)

I exploded ! My husband said that they decided not to tell me because I had a high risk pregnancy and I could die along with my daughter, I didnt need the stress! I understood that logic once I calmed down a bit.

So I flat refused to see them ever again, No way, I refuse to allow them in my house.. My husband understood that. i said IF you want to go see them go ahead you can take our daughter. But I wanted nothing to do with them..

So that is what happened fast forward .. my daughter is 5 our marriage ended

It doesn't matter that your husband isn't the biological father, People make babies all the time that aren't a loving parent. You and your husband chose to have a child. You love each other.

I think your trying to cut them out is completly unrealistic to be honest. As for the hospital? I would allow them to see the child for 10 mins and then that was enough. Once your home and the baby gets old enough to take around , let your husband go show off his brand new baby. You dont have to go with.

I hope you can figure out how to make this work.