I hope my feelings about this thread don't make you feel defensive in any way. Or defensive of him.

It seems like this is the first really big and obvious (in-your-face) disclosure of your erotic transference. I would have liked to see him take that opportunity to be open, and available, but at the same time - firm up his boundaries for your own emotional safety.

The way I interpret his behavior is the opposite. He chose this time to drop his boundaries. That just seems counterintuitive (aka bass akwards) to me. But of course, it's hard to get inside anyone's head regarding this stuff!!

See, this (the firming up) is what *I* would want my T to do. Certainly doesn't imply it's the best for you and your T!

em