Not feeling defensive at all, Emily. Thank you for your reply. I agree that it was definitely a big risk on his part. And I understand why he has never done it before. His disclosure has allowed a whole new mess of intense emotions and transference to come up... but... most importantly, it has allowed me to feel connected. I think therapy is all about taking chances. There aren't a lot of boundaries with my T when it comes to stuff like phone calls (call as many times as I need), session length (sometimes we go a little over an hour), etc. But-- for two years he has never dropped a personal boundary-- no disclosure of emotion, nothing. Blank slate. And he knows that in the past two months or so, I have been in a lot of pain, insisting that he feels nothing. That the connection is one-sided. So given my attachment and transference issues, yes, I think he took quite a chance. But I don't see any harm coming out of it. It was so incredibly significant. I think he recognized that this was a moment when I really needed to see another side of him and to feel something different.