I am so glad I found this thread. I have fancied a coworker now for 5 months nonstop. I know being with him will not quench this thirst. In the beginning, it seemed we were at least on the road to being friends, then he acted like he wanted to run from me. He has severe problems getting close to people, so then he started dating a girl online whom he has never met in person. I have not spoken to him in over a month because I just want this to go away. It isn't healthy. Thankfully our job is non interactive. I know this isn't possible to truly love a man I am obsessed with. Trying a new therapist next week because the previous therapist used CBT which seems useless for this issue. I know because this is the third time in 9 years I have endured this hell, and CBT was useless.