I can appreciate your points of view.

Yes, it may not be "easy" for her. As mentioned, her reason for using in the first place is a contributing factor and affects the ease of quitting, as does her reason for quitting. When “you choose,” really choose to quit, giving up pot is relatively easy and I stand by that statement. Yes, it affects your mood for days and there is a withdrawal period, but it’s a short one.

My statement that it’s relatively easy is not based simply on my own experiences. It is also based on working with people in drug treatment programs, some of whom were there voluntarily and some that were not; various drugs, various combinations of substances, various motivations. Pot all by itself, even under protest – it doesn’t get easier than that.

My response was based on pot use only, as he did not mention other drugs or alcohol concerns. If he had, my response would have been quite different. Also, she has yet to quit; let’s not lose sight of that. Given his reservations, doubt and forming distrust, maybe he should just get out now. Idk, that’s for him to decide. What’s love got to do with anything anyway lol

@healingme4me I am pretty familiar with pot research and its effect on the brain. If you’re interested in research, the current cross-generational studies with mice are quite fascinating as far as they’ve gone.

@divine1966 living with an alcoholic is very difficult. I know this one all to well. The day I realized I would never, ever be 1st, 2nd to a thing, it was an epiphany. Wouldn’t wish that experience on anyone. And I agree it's important to accept people as they are.