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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
You asked:
"Why do some many people hate fat people, especially fat women? It's mean and not O.K to make fun of us for being big. Not everyone can be the perfect size no matter how much they diet and work out."
Somehow or other these people have gotten the idea that it is okay to discharge their negative emotion on to people who are unable to effectively fight back. Society reinforces them with all of its attention on impossible ideals  : women are supposed to be perfect, forever young, incredibly tiny (even immediately after having given birth).
You need kinder friends. If you want to remain friends with people who make hurtful comments about your weight, I suggest you calmly reply: "Your comments are hurtful and unwelcome." Then change the subject. You don't need to explain, justify, or apologize for how much you weigh. You are a wonderful individual, completely unique as you are, right now, this very minute. |
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Hi, sorry for the slow response. I've just been tired and busy lately. Anyways, you're right about what you said. Society places way to much pressure on women to be thin and beautiful. Heavier men can seem to get away with being heavy and unattractive, but for some odd reason, being heavy set and unattractive happens to be unacceptable for women which is baffling! Who gives a **** how a woman looks unless someone is planning on dating or marrying her? LOL!
I appreciate your advice. I'll keep that in mind. I do believe that my friend thought that she was trying to help me by being honest. If she really didn't like fat people, then I doubt that she'd still hang out with me and be friends with me. I just think that she said that out of ignorance. I'll be sure to nicely let her know that those kind of comments aren't OK IF she ever mentions such a thing again. And it is ridiculous to how female celebrities are expected to loose all of their pregnancy weight so fast. How they do it so fast is rather astounding though! They must work out like crazy or get liposuction soon after giving birth! Either that, or they're freaks of nature!