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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
I'm a similar size, height, weight as you.
The only people who've ever actually called me fat are my family.
I do not like how my body is. I don't. But no one else has any right to criticize me.
Your "friend" sounds like a passive-aggressive b****. I've got friends who are larger, smaller, "uglier", prettier, different race, different style of dress/hygiene etc.... none of them care about my appearance, and I don't care about theirs.
What we DO care about is how the other person feels, and encouraging them to see themselves in a more positive light if they're having problems.
The only people I've ever had comment on anything about my appearance has been, well, my students. To which I respond with either "Thanks for noticing," or "Does it matter?".
I'm so sorry you've been exposed to such a shallow, judgemental person.
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Hi, sorry to the slow response. I've been tired and busy lately. Anyways, sorry to hear that your family makes you feel bad about your weight-
Mine has been doing that for years! My husband sometimes does that, but he knows his limits. I had to yell at my parents numerous times to never give me diet advice again or comment on how I look unless I ask them to.
Thankfully it worked, so, so far, so good most of the time-
They're both heavy too, so they're hypocrites. As for my friend, I think that she was really unaware of how her comment came across. I honestly think that SHE thought that she was being honest with me about how other people felt. A male friend told me that he has no issues with heavy set people, but he did state that a lot of people are repulsed by heavy set people. That seems to be true.
As long as a heavy person is not wearing stuff that is to tight and inappropriate for their size, then who cares how big they are? Unless someone is planning to marry or date someone, then why should their looks matter? I'm sorry, but it looks do matter to most people. Sorry to hear about the way that your students treat you at times. Its great that you can handle their comments well though-
IF my friend brings up any weight issues again, then I'll gently but firmly let her know to not bring that subject up again. IF I thought that she was truly being passive aggressive, then I'd not be her friend for sure. I hate those type of people!