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Originally Posted by iwonderaboutstuff
Hi Shy Introvert,
Since you're inclined to give your friend the benefit of the doubt, I am too.
Perhaps this was more about clothing style/choice? I'm overweight, the extra goes to my belly, hips, thighs. In theory a maxi dress should be great on me. In reality, it's not. It adds pounds, makes me look even bigger.
As your friend, could be she wants you healthy, physically well. What's your doctor say about your height, weight and its effect on your physical well being?
This makes me wonder about the context of your conversation(s). Were you talking about wanting to make more friends, that it's hard as a homemaker, etc? Fact of the matter is the first thing people see is how a person looks and some people are judgemental/prejudice. In the workplace - appearance can sometimes get you in the door; and studies show people respond more positively to those who are active/workout.
Losing weight is not easy, especially as we age. It requires discipline. Sounds like you know what you need to do if you want to get to a healthier weight. It takes work, consistency over time.
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Hi, about my clothing choices, maybe there were a few times that I chose to wear a dress that hugged my problem areas to much, which is my stomach and hips. In that case, I don't think that was the case though. I'm usually pretty careful to stick to loose A line flowy tops and dresses.
I even wear long scarves at times to hide my belly, and long shirts to hide my wide hips and by kind of big butt and thighs. Maxi dresses do look good on me most of the time.
As for caring about my health, I guess that she did think she was trying to help me.
Regarding work, I don't have to worry about the way I dress now as I don't work due to various reasons. Maybe in the future I might try to look for a job, but I'm very limited in my prospects due to not having a college degree or any special talent. I also have social anxiety, and I know that when I tried to work with the public in the past, that didn't end well due to my anxiety issues. I would end up getting fired for not being that social or quit due to being to overwhelmed to deal with people all the time. If I can find a night job to where I don't have to deal with people, that'd be ideal. It can't involve to much heavy lifting though.
I'm lucky that I don't have to work to pay rent as my husband earns a decent salary. As for people discriminating against heavier people, that's sad but true at times. It is a LOT harder to loose weight no matter what when most people get older. It doesn't help that I messed up my metabolism with a ton of yo yo diets in the past. I mostly eat healthy now, but I do drink to much light beer and vodka once in awhile, ugh! I need to start exercising again too. I've been stuck at the same weight for way to long, so dieting alone is not going to help me loose weight like it has in the past, ugh!