(((((((((((((((dreamrunner))))))))))))))
You are NOT a loser. SI is something that most of us doing really even know why we crave so much because we know how bad it is for us. Is there any way that you can talk to your husband about how you're feeling? It seems as though this might be something that he would find out in the long run if you continue to do it ... maybe he can help support you in some way? If not .... well we have our own little mini support group on here always willing to listen.
Stay strong, and know that this doesn't make you weak, nor an idiot ... not by any means.
hugs (if okay)
Jacq