My husband has said something similar. Well, except for the whole if you truly love us you'll never think of suicide.

But he did say that if I did suicide it would ruin him and our daughter. He said he'd always wonder what he could have done to prevent it. He's said he'd never recover from it. I think he's the reason why I've never really tried to commit suicide. (Last time I DID NOT try to kill myself. It was complicated. I was psychotic.) I don't know where I'd be right now without him. He's so supportive. He's like my anchor or something. I could never leave him like that. We're soul mates, best friends. I'd NEVER do that to him.

It is insidious. The suicidal thoughts. When I've had them I never actually wanted to die. I just couldn't handle the way I was feeling.

So maybe your husband should have said something along the lines of: If you committed suicide, you would ruin your kids and me. We need you and love you.

Or something like that. No need for the guilt trip.

And you don't have a poisonous mind.