This post touched my heart. I moved out of state about 1 1/2 years ago. I told both of my kids right away that I was moving because my aging father needed someone from the family nearby. I am very close with my son, but have seen how greatly this impacted him. My daughter is married and later also moved. I talk to them almost daily or at the least a text. I am so sorry about the relationship with your mother.

I hope you have friends who can be your support. My mother was much like yours and my parents moved out of state. Having other people in my life was very helpful.