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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
There are some Ts who work really hard on consistancy, they never cancel a session, they never change the time. My ex-T was like that, part of her way of working was to give clients that consistancy. I wonder if your T could work harder to give you this as you need it? I've never had a session cancelled, but I think that if a T did I would find it hard like you.
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In January/February, my T was canceling and moving sessions left and right due to some personal problems. I was going through a rough time and it was hard on me. Sometimes I'd only get a couple hours' notice. I talked to her about it later, and told her that the nonconsistency is hard for me. She apparently does not believe in having therapy be 100% consistent. It was the ONLY thing that was consistent in my life, the one thing I could count on to "be there." But she said life is not consistent, so this is good practice for how life really is. Makes sense, yes, but I've otherwise only heard that Ts try to give their clients a consistent environment to help them feel safe and secure. So I felt like she said that because it covered her @$$ in that situation. I felt guilty for wishing for some consistency SOMEWHERE, thinking therapy would be the one place I could get that. I understand things happen, but this went on for probably about 10 weeks (and seeing her twice a week, that's a lot of sessions!) I never knew if she'd cancel on me last minute or what. I tried to not plan on having therapy until an hour before my session, because I never knew.