My friend who i often mention on here with ADD has a tendency to argue no matter what circumstances. If someone doesn't need to argue she will dismiss that and just continue.

Back in december my mum got diagnosed with cancer (multiple myloma to be exact) and since then she has started pointless arguements and is just causing unnecessary drama when i am trying to help her manage the ADD. I tell her that she is doing this and the other which will have bad consequences and ask her if she is sure she wants to do that. By which time it has ended in her getting so irate and just start hurling insults and harsh comments which to me is over the top.

Not just that but any small thing such as me offering to hang out ended in an argument where she didn't understand why i was offering to hang out "because we are not close" although you don't have to be just to hang out, it's good to keep in touch now and again right?

So when i turn around and say can we not argue i don't need this right now with everything going on with my mum i don't need any drama right now can i do anything to sort this out so that it's resolved here and now. But then she will accuse me of using my mum's cancer as an 'excuse' and that i am "always making her out to be the bad one" which again is a bit out of proportion

Is this an ADD trait could unmedicated ADD explain this? Am i being ridiculous about it? Or is she taking it over the top?

Claire