Bless those of you who have lost your parents. My dad passed away from cancer about 20 years ago and my brother who lived with her, just last fall. My mom has always been hobby-less, mostly taking care of other people, and now alone, so that's probably why I'm so concerned. She's healthy and really deserves some time for herself. I want her remaining years to be full. Most parents do the best they can at raising their children; as a daughter and a mother, I can attest to that. I hear so many of you describe your parents' as having psychological problems of their own. And I see that by not taking care of my issues, totally consumed with work and family, I unknowingly set a poor example for my own child who is also troubled. If I had it to do all over again, I would've realized the importance of fixing myself first.

Thanks for your responses.