To cut to the chase: I read every word. So you're an infantilist, that's your "thing". I believe we all have things: http://www.amazon.com/Perv-The-Sexua...dp/0374230897/ and you can't argue with your wife as she is talking about herself and how she views you/the world and that isn't strictly about you, but her. She can't be wrong about herself and how she feels/thinks. Argument is technically calling her a liar? Tell your voices to put that in their pipe and smoke it!

We're all here on this site because we have hangups about some of our things and/or don't feel "good". I am sorry you are suffering (for what that's worth to hear from a stranger?) and I think you should share this "junk". I'll read/listen.

Middle age was not kind to me (I'm 65 this year). Around 46 I realized I was literally going "over the hill" was more than halfway done and I still had not figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up? It all got a bit mentally better again when I entered my 50's. Now I'm retired and having the daunting look forward to. . . what? Not like I'm taking up new interests or changing jobs, starting families or raising them. I've traveled well in the last 10 years but my husband announced after the last plane flight he was done with planes. The grandchildren are almost teens so moving away from their parents even, never mind we grandparents. My husband and I are looking at Continuous Care Retirement Communities (CCRC). Never thought I'd get there to assisted living/"nursing homes"?