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Originally Posted by sidony
This is something I'm really wondering about: If I'm involved in a relationship and at some point I stop finding my partner sexually attractive -- at least for me, I'm never able to go back to finding him sexually attractive again. Am I alone in this? How can you find someone attractive once you've stopped finding them that way? I don't mean to say that I've immediately ended relationships once I ceased to find the person attractive, but at that point I do sort of think of it as doomed.
Someone I know was complaining that she was no longer physically attracted to her husband. I really didn't know what to say. I didn't want to say "and you never will be again," but that's what I was thinking.
How on earth could you recreate being attracted to someone? Is it possible?
Sidony
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Losing attraction may not be the problem but a symptom. Like me I thought i had libido issues because i just couldn't understand why i would lose attraction to someone i love. Well that wasn't the case apparently i am an Abandoholic. And unresolved abandonment issues has had lasting affects to where once im secure in a relationship i start to lose interest in the person. I only feel attracted when im working for it. check this link out see if anything rings a bell.
Abandoholics Anonymous | Fear of Abandonment | Abandonment Therapy | Abandonment Recovery | Susan Anderson
It doesn't affect everyone the same but a lot of this rang true to me after test and more test showed i didn't have any hormonal issues or medication issues causing me to lose sexual interest.
I hope if this is the case this will help you to start on the road of discovery. I just started therapy so I can't tell you if you can get the attraction back yet but i hope so for my bf's sake he has been hanging in there for me and knows i have a problem.
good luck to you
