I know you said replies aren't nescessary... but if it helps and it probably won't... I too... went down that path.. even gave money to my ex... found new and intovated ways to "cut down" my budget, just to find out how much he really had when my son turned 18 and my "ex" was safe...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr to say the least..