i am 33 with five kids. i dont see my mother and i dont feel guilty about it. she was a lousy mom ( took me 4 years of therapy to be able to say that) i have enough problems trying to deal with my issues without dealing with hers. i moved away from her and its working out great. just know this for sure....you cannot make her change make her feel make her anything. work on yourself and raise your kids to be happy and well adjusted. you are not responsible for your mom. your own metal health is more important. remember that.