(((((quinn45)))))

I'm sorry this has been so hard.

I'd just like to comment on the idea of couples counseling. I think that what is needed here is individual counseling. Obviously he won't be getting that while deployed. But if you are still discussing things with him when he comes back, my advice is to insist on individual counseling for him. His behavior and his insecurity are the elephants in the room that need to be addressed. By suggesting that the main thing is a couples issue, one diverts attention and effort from where it is really needed.