It's cut and dry, and I can tell by your posts that you are well aware of it. He is showing all the signs of an eventual abuser. It's only a matter of time before it gets physical. My ex husband was just like him. It just escalated with time, and I'm glad I managed to get out before he seriously hurt or killed me. Some people have issues that just can't be fixed. This guy you are with is extremely inmature, and doesn't seem to know how to communicate or have a healthy relationship. Which is sad, but red flags are popping up everywhere when I read your post. My advice is to get out NOW.