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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Ugh, this is all about your bf being immature and spiteful, looks like he's playing tit for tat while throwing his toys out of his cot.
I assume he's older than 15? Since you mentioned living together, but its honestly realllly hard to imagine.
"You can't be intimate, I won't be intimate, but just so you know I will blame you all the way.."
Blech!
That's not only immature but pretty vindictive too, are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who's going to play these spiteful games whenever he doesn't get his way?
More importantly, are you willing to stay with someone who chooses to play these spiteful games over offering you emotional support in your time of need?
He clearly put his selfish pouting lack of sex WAY above your need for support during a painful time.
And when you were well enough to have sex, he decided to punish you, by rejecting your advances.
Ask yourself is this the type of person you want to be with long term....
Because its definitely not the type of man I would want to be with.
I need someone who can be there for me when times get tough, instead of a baby who throws a tantrum and demands attention instead.
Lucky for me though, I already have that man.
Me thinks you have some long term thinking to do.
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He has always been extremely loving and supportive in the past but he has changed lately. I feel like its all about his self esteem since hes seen how much pain ive been in lately.
Update though.... i finally fell asleep last night hoping that he would be apologetic and empathetic in the am like he normally is after a fight. He woke me up and we snuggled sort of awkwardly, and then he just goes "mm **** me." Ive been up all night crying and feel emotionally unsupported so of course I have no desire. Then after a bit I was spooning him and he farts loudly against my privates!!! I said thata disgusting and his answer is "yeah thats how ive been feeling about it lately". I let it go and then a bit later he is getting up to go to work and i did the same as i was alone in the bed (sorry tmi) and he got mad and goes "sexy. Have a nice day" and walks away. I started crying of course and pursued him into the kitchen to ask him why he was treating me so awfully. He went into a rage, called me lazy, selfish, brought up our money situation and put me down.. i just took time off.school to deal with my health condition which is very hard for me and he told me i was lazy and selfish and.just sat around the.house all day... he pretty much picked my biggest insecurity and capitolized on it. he told me again he waa doing nothing wrong and it was my fault and how HE didnt.deserve to be treated badly and stormed off. He came back for a minute to psuedo apolpgize and told me to "cheer up.because I cant do this".
You need to understand he has never been like this. Its like hes another person who doesnt love me at all. I am so lonely and sad now i was having thoughts of self harm. Even if he returns to normal how am I supposed to forget about this? Ive never felt so distant from him.