I love my husband, but he's a huge **** up mess. I need to quit counting on him to figure this out because he obviously can't. I need to figure out what I'm going to do, formulate a plan, take action, get something accomplished.

We have 1 car, it's old, but runs. We have no home base. I have a college degree in Housing Studies, an expired insurance producer license, and I am on disability currently get about $900/mo, because of repayment and other deductions.

I would like to get a job, a place to live, a better car (2nd car), etc. I don't know where to begin.

Issues: Husband has a record, housing options are now limited, he has destroyed my credit, working on filing bankruptcy because I see no alternative. He also owe a fine of 7,500 now. And has no interest is finding a place to live at this time.

To me housing is a priority, to him (since he travels) it's not. But he's holding me back. Sure I tried working with him, I suck, and I don't like his job, he's good I'm not.

Problem #2: I have trouble securing a descent job. I get temp jobs, thus affecting my disability negatively, but no one will hire me, not sure why. I'm fat, that is what my mom says is a problem, I'm over 40, probably another problem, sketching work history (stay home mom for many years), and disabled status (I know that's held against me regardless of the laws).

I really don't know what to do. With deposits and other fees, I have no clue how to afford a place on 900 a month. He's not helping me, he's really hurting me. He's drug me down, very far, and I should run, but I really don't want to. HELP.