Patty -- I'm a few years older than you are (59). I do not find men my age sexually attractive. I assume I am not particularly sexually attractive anymore either, as they all seem to want younger hotties.

Yes, I've been very hurt, and a man would have to do more than I could reasonably expect to overcome that.

Not wanting it anymore seems to me to be a good thing. Dance naked in the moonlight and celebrate.

I can't bring myself to date or think about having a relationship. I don't think that's the same thing as "not wanting" -- I just cannot deal with the whole thing and haven't been able to for the past 4 years. I had some casual "dates" with a man in NOLA in '04, and I realized at that time that I wasn't ready or able -- and I'm still not.

So glad you feel content.