Great posts and everyone is extremely helpful and I read and consider everyone's advice. Little update for everyone, my girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months. Best loving relationship I've ever been in because both of us love each other equally and deeply care about each other. My girl friend and I are honestly very open with one another and we had dinner this past weekend and openly talked about my conflicts with her use. We talked for a good hour and I believe true progress was made in her understanding of how I feel and what must happen if we are to continue as a couple. I talked in length about her defensive stance when trying to justify her use and the health risks involved that she wants to talk away. I truly believe she wants to quit and I told her I would support her anyway I can.
There won't be any children in the future, were both divorced individuals with children from previous marriages. I'm older and I have a son in college and a daughter who is Soph in HS. Hers are still in middle school. Were both athletic individuals and do a lot of athletic things together. She runs a lot and is actually training for a full marathon and teaches PIYO and other arobic classes. My job requires that I be in great shape.
I think the biggest thing in our relationship is that we are so different than one another and that is what makes us fit so well. We bring each other out of our comfort zones with one another. She's more the hippie type and I'm the more structured, grounded person. Relationship wise were so perfect and happy, its just this mj use that is driving a stake through things. I'm willing to continue to try but will definitely start to stabilize my feelings and hold back some until I see some signs of improvement. Kind of like,"hope for the best but be prepared for the worse," type feeling.